I had "divorce class" last week. The mandatory parenting class for anyone divorcing with minor children. After 8 years of separation and NO contact, most of the information wasn't pertinent. However, I did get some good reminders and was glad I approached the evening with an open mind.
At one point, the instructor tossed out some statistics about remarriages.
75% second marriages fail
85% of third marriages fail.
NOT that I'm planning or remotely hoping for a third try at this, but the M/s dynamic is or can be a similar pact.
That figure terrifies me. It doesn't take a marriage certificate to make a relationship work, but it sometimes makes it worth hanging on to to make it work. Make sense?
As Jefe and make plans to merge our households (not sure how that looks yet), I fear that I will be part of that 85%. Baggage aside, I have kids, he doesn't. I have teens, he doesn't. That kind of stress is going to be huge on us. I have no doubt that if it was just the two of us, we'd make it through anything. We are just that good together.
But now I'm scared to death to become a statistic, and I can't wait another 8 years to live under the same roof. Yeah, yeah, there's the 15% that do work, I don't live in that world, never have, probably never will.
Sometimes you just have to wonder... is love enough?
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